Monday, March 31, 2014

the rest of march and thoughts on parenting

life has been pretty crazy lately. 
march 2nd we handed over the keys of our little green house and made the permanent move to our new house which dave began building this past fall. 
it's beautiful and we are loving the extra space, all the natural light, and making it our own!

there are some odds and ends that need to be finished up, but hopefully before too long i can do a blog post w/ a little house tour

for now, here's my o so sweet (and sometimes rotten) kiddos!

somebody got into my mascara!
she has become a serious mess lately…so deliberately disobedient!
who knew parenting would be such a difficult job?

i have been so blessed here in Red Lake to be surround by many supportive and encouraging mamas. 
i never realized the world of parenting would be such a judgemental place!
(i should probably stop reading so many of the articles that pop up on my Facebook newsfeed)
it seems that no matter how you choose to parent your children, somebody thinks you are doing it wrong and probably ruining your kids for life

if i vaccinate my kids i am playing into a greedy system which obviously cares nothing about the health of my kids and cares greatly about my money
if i don't vaccinate my kids i'm putting my kids at a huge risk, and if they die of some rare disease i'll have no one to blame but myself

if i spank my kids, i care nothing about their hearts, and they will likely grow up to be violent
if i don't spank my kids they will be able to run all over me and won't learn to respect authority

if i let my baby cry it out at night, i'm just being lazy and i should treasure those 2 am feedings because one day i'll wish my baby needed me again
if i don't teach my baby to self-soothe, they will never learn to be independent

and the list goes on…and on…and on!
the thing that get me most about those articles is the hateful comments that follow
it's unbelievable the way parents verbally abuse other parents
it's as if all parents are out there to do what's the worst for their kids

but i think that in reality, most parents truly want to do the very best for their kids
it's kind of crazy how God gives us this huge job to carry out w/ absolutely no experience
no practice run…
it can be so very overwhelming to think about the impact and implications that my parenting will have on these little souls that i have been given to take care of
perhaps He does it to keep us on our knees
and to remind us that ultimately our kids are His kids
and He loves them so much more than we will ever be able to

it is my job to point my children to Christ
to raise them up to be lovers of God and of those around them

i will mess up
i will make the wrong choices sometimes
i will wound my kids
i will cause them hurt
but i believe that my God is a Redeemer
and He brings perfection out of imperfection

my prayer for my kiddos is that they will know the love of God
that they will surrender their hearts to Him while they are young
and my prayer for Dave and i is the same
that we will know the love of God and live our lives ever and always heading His gentle voice

i just read this on a blog today:

“We fear men so much, because we fear God so little.” 
 William Gurnall
How true this is.  It's so easy to care more about what people think than what God thinks.

i know i would do better to look more to Jesus and less to those around me
Jesus promises to lead His own
I am His own
and His promises never fail

 these legs crack me up!
so chubbers and so hilarious!

these two are entertaining each other more and more…i just love it!

i was so nervous about having a boy
i was really hoping we would have another girl!
but thankfully God plans the gender of our babies :)
and He chose to gave us this munchkin
when i found out we were having a boy i was seriously worried i wasn't going to like him very much
i shouldn't have worried :)

Brighton is becoming such a little mommy
today she gave her monkey a spanking 
(oops, gave that one away…guess you know where i come out on that issue now ;)
and then she gave him a hug and a big kiss and said "you're going to be ok"
it is so so fun (and scary) to see her growing up and learning new things

happy last day of March!
may April bring us lots of sunshine
and lots and lots of melting snow :)


  1. This is a BEAUTIFUL post, Parla! I resonate with so much of what you wrote on parenting! It's scary, it's such a guessing-game sometimes, it's difficult, but oh so beautiful! You're a wonderful mom, Parla!

    1. thanks so much annejisca! i've so enjoyed the encouragement of the moms here in red lake! we don't all agree on everything, but for the most part everyone is ok w/ that :)

  2. Love what you wrote. Always fun to see pictures of my grandchildren. :)

    1. Brighton is so excited to go to Virginia! looking forward to it myself :)

  3. Great thoughts Parla, you said it so we'll. Your contrasts on the parenting issue you listed made me laugh, it's so true and so ridiculous at the same time. I don't think we can every figure it out but trust God to show us what is right and what will work for each kid... The longer I'm a parent the less I know.
    And good riddance to March, it just had to give us one more dump of snow before it left. :)

    1. and i didn't even mention schooling, family planning, or dietary choices lol
      i'm guessing it won't be the last dump of snow :( o well! i'm out-a-here for 10 days and super excited about it!

  4. I felt the same way with each pregnancy... I was so scared we would have a boy & I wouldn't love him. We never found out what we were having but I was so relieved when the first 2 were girls, And in my mind it was just a confirmation that I really wouldn't have loved a boy since God didn't give us one. And then I got pregnant with our third child... about 10 minutes before I delivered, my doctor came in and said he's going to try and pull a "stinky little boy out". I laughed, (as much as a woman in labor could laugh) but inside I was cringing. A few minutes later our little man was born and I instantly fell in love. I actually cried more happy tears with his birth then i did with the girls. I felt so incredibly guilty that I didn't think I would be able to love a boy the same as our girls. What is there not to love?? The sweet smiles, the snuggles, those lashes!! Oh my word... what was I thinking?? :) And as always... your kids are adorable. :)

    1. crazy isn't it! i have actually enjoyed ahser more than i ever did brighton :) he is much much happier than she was and it just makes me love him all the more!

  5. Boys are great!! Cynthia

    1. you would know!!!! and i know where to come when i need parenting advice for boys ;)

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